Trust is one of those simple, five letter words that we learn in grade school. Trust is becoming a part of educational acronyms, something the adults are trying to teach us. However, I don't think trust can be taught. It is a relationship skill you acquire, whether it be with upbringing or multiple play-dates, but you cannot simply learn how to do so. After we acquire this social skill, we must then apply it to everyday life. So it starts with petty secrets, involving crushes about the blonde boy on the swings. As you grow older, it turns into who is hooking up with who and what happened at such&such's party. Trust can be easily lost as these friendships that you have developed can be changed just as quickly as the seasons. Then you find yourself in a spiral of confusion. If you trusted these people with everything and then they suddenly disappear, did all of your secrets remain classified? Or will you now be the topic of so many lunch convos? Unfortunately, in this day and age, many lives are affected because of a loss of trust.
Friendships aren't the only things. Relationships also require trust. In fact, I believe no relationship can exist until each person can trust the other. Unfortunately, this is also something that is acted out by one or the other. Can trust in relationships truly exist? Will one ever be okay with the complete thoughts and actions of another? You must trust the other person to make decisions that will benefit and enhance your relationship, and not damage them. This is also a hard skill to acquire, as you must push aside the primal jealousy and doubt and replace them with hope and faith.
Just because trust is being forced into our everyday lives does not mean, in any way, that it is adapted. I will never trust easily, for the experiences in my life have given me reason to not trust immediately. Prior to all this, I was more than willing to trust complete strangers with my life story. But upon discovering the reality of things, I see now that I cannot be so careless with my thoughts. Besides, it'll be illegal to think freely one day, and I would like to use my freedom of speech while I can. At least I can trust myself to do that ;)
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Trust...Trust....Trust? T-R-U-S-T...Yep, 5 letters. Yay, we can count!! Unfortunately, the meaning of our words are false.
ReplyDeleteTrust is not simple. According to our greatest invention since sliced bread: confidence in and reliance on good qualities, especially fairness, truth, honor, or ability.
Funny...It says, 'OR' not 'AND'.
What is Fair? You tell me a secret and I tell you one?
What is True? Nothing is True, everything is permitted.
Honor? Honor is the notation of moral strength, and who really has that?
And then Ability...Everyone has that.
I think it's that we as human's want to think that those we Trust will follow their ability to keep the secret. So that we don't have to worry about the lunch convo...
It is not that Trust cannot be learned, it can and is. The fact is that we don't want to go through the learning process called life.
We as Humans learn through mistakes, but those mistakes can be unfortunately painful. And since the common person knows not to pain themselves constantly once the pain of Trust Broken is something that keeps us from Trusting as easy.
To me however, Trust is the finished product. The first thing needed is someone to Trust. Then comes the second half of Trust...Caring(Type in 'Truth' on a Word Document and look at #4, it's 'Care'). If you don't Care for anyone, then you can't be expected to have the ABILITY to keep anything. The only 'Care' youmay have is what they have to say. This means you would say "I Trust you..." but the three words you spit are as hollow as the Heart that spoke them. With out Care, there is no Trust, in any relationship, Parent/Guardian, Friend, BF/GF.
Wait, BF/GF? You HAVE to Care in those relationships....Right?
Supposedly, but this means Trust is instantly built, and that means you have no doubts...No secrets.
If your other asks where you are going, don't jump to the conclusion that he/she is suspicious of your faithfulness. But if they accuse you of be unfaithful...Then the 'Caring' foundation comes crashing down. The bridge has crumbled and Trust is questioned. It is in times like these that a relationship is truly strained, and no longer functions correctly.
"But earlier you said we learn from our mistakes!"
I did...But what have you learned about the other person? That Trust will always be questionable?
Or perhaps the better question is, what have they learned?
If this happens, is the Trust ever restored? No...And if it is, then you have to share your secret, 'cause I haven't trusted this person the same because of an event that happened 2 months ago.........
Carleigh, Trust isn't forced upon us, it is there to remind us. The experiences have taught you not to Trust easily, and at is great.
And by the way, Freedom of thought is already restricted, but not by the Government, just your self-consciousness.