Monday, July 12, 2010

Every Once in a While.

Trust is one of those simple, five letter words that we learn in grade school. Trust is becoming a part of educational acronyms, something the adults are trying to teach us. However, I don't think trust can be taught. It is a relationship skill you acquire, whether it be with upbringing or multiple play-dates, but you cannot simply learn how to do so. After we acquire this social skill, we must then apply it to everyday life. So it starts with petty secrets, involving crushes about the blonde boy on the swings. As you grow older, it turns into who is hooking up with who and what happened at such&such's party. Trust can be easily lost as these friendships that you have developed can be changed just as quickly as the seasons. Then you find yourself in a spiral of confusion. If you trusted these people with everything and then they suddenly disappear, did all of your secrets remain classified? Or will you now be the topic of so many lunch convos? Unfortunately, in this day and age, many lives are affected because of a loss of trust.

Friendships aren't the only things. Relationships also require trust. In fact, I believe no relationship can exist until each person can trust the other. Unfortunately, this is also something that is acted out by one or the other. Can trust in relationships truly exist? Will one ever be okay with the complete thoughts and actions of another? You must trust the other person to make decisions that will benefit and enhance your relationship, and not damage them. This is also a hard skill to acquire, as you must push aside the primal jealousy and doubt and replace them with hope and faith.

Just because trust is being forced into our everyday lives does not mean, in any way, that it is adapted. I will never trust easily, for the experiences in my life have given me reason to not trust immediately. Prior to all this, I was more than willing to trust complete strangers with my life story. But upon discovering the reality of things, I see now that I cannot be so careless with my thoughts. Besides, it'll be illegal to think freely one day, and I would like to use my freedom of speech while I can. At least I can trust myself to do that ;)